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Sending your children off with your ex and then a couple days later, receiving them is one of the hardest things to do, especially in the beginning of your divorce.
As grown adults we can suffer from separation anxiety. We find the separation difficult sometimes even though we might need it. To cope we might cry, call a friend, or find something to keep us busy.
For children of newly divorced parents, the transitions between households can create anxiety as well. But for children, their reasoning skills are not developed, nor are their coping skills. So it’s only natural that when they transition they fall apart in the first five minutes of arrival. You can almost set your watch by it. It’s predictable. One child might withdraw, another might cry and fuss, and another might rebel.
For these times I have a solution for you. I’m calling this my Transition Jar. Click on the link below and get your free template full of tons of ideas to help you transition your kids back home to you calmly and without anxiety.
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This post is close to my heart because I know just how real and anxiety ridden sending and receiving your kids can be. Be it in the early stages of your divorce or in some of the later stages of the divorce.
I loved receiving my kids, but I was always anxious about it at the same time. Maybe that’s you. Maybe like me you would have paid money for someone else to do it for you—a body double! Hey, now there’s my next million dollar business! A service that actually will receive your kids for you so you don’t have to see or deal with your ex. That would be a gold mine people!
I digress.
Maybe it’s stressful for you to see your ex; to see how, on outward appearances, he/she is moving on. Maybe it is hard for you to receive your kids who might be going through ‘meltdown’ at the same time you are going through your own meltdown.
In any case I have some really good stuff for you today. In this episode I reference a great article by Christina McGhee of Parenting Apart called, Helping kids transition between Mom’s and Dad’s house. Check it out.
Christina’s article compliments today’s podcast and is also all about helping children of divorce transition between mom and dad’s homes.
I’d also like to give thanks to Ruth Soukup of Living Well Spending Less for the template for my Transition Jar ideas. You can visit Ruth at Living Well Spending Less.
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