I'm Tomi Tuel, creator of Live Well Divorce. If you desire to thrive AFTER your divorce, but are not there yet and need clearer focus, better tools, and more peace, then this page is for you.
My belief is to be honest, humble, lead by example, and share what I know. That's what LWD is all about.
Let's start your
LIVE WELL DIVORCE JOURNEY
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Let's get on the road and detox.
Tools to help stay calm and cope from the crazies.
2
Let's get you out of the mud.
Tools to help you stop asking the "why" question.
3
Back up. Don't forget your soul.
Real ways to get back in touch with your own soul.
4
Change lanes. Let's focus on growth.
Ways to get out of your comfort zone.
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Go do. The sky's the limit.
Tools for the best do-over of your life.
What is it to live well?
The LWD
Definition
What are the phases of divorce recovery?
And what to expect
from each.
What LWD is not.
I'm not going to baby you.
You can't have a positive life with a negative mind.
Divorce is like a thief that steals your inner peace. It can and will take you down. Staying positive and optimistic during this dark part of your life is my focus and wish for you.
Helping you stay upbeat is my goal. Helping you live well with the second chance you've been given is my mission.
In otherwords, I don't want you to make the same mistake twice!
And when it is over you will benchmark all your future life challenges from this period, because heck, if you can get through this, you can get through just about anything. Somebody give me an Amen!
People ask me all the time, "How do I get through this and when will it end?" My standard reply is you get through this when you're supposed to and it will end when it ends. Code for: I haven't a clue. But life does get better and there's always a brighter tomorrow.
Part of healing is realizing where you are in the recovery process. I liken it to a roadmap with pit stops along the way.
0-3 months; What's going on? (I need coping skills and tools to stay calm.)
3-12 months; Why is this happening? (I'm stuck in the mud.)
6-12 months; I've done things I regret. (Back up, don't forget your soul.)
12-24 months; This is hard, but I'll make it. (Let's focus on growth.)
24 plus months; I've got this. (The sky's the limit.)
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1. Marry up! The Live Well Divorce philosophy is not about marrying a sugar daddy or sugar mama. The goal is to find happiness within yourself and discover your passions. When you do that the rest will follow.
2. Sometimes we can lose ourselves in marriage. Now is the time for getting back to you. Live Well Divorce is not about relying on someone else to make you happy. There is tremendous value in being alone and learning how to entertain yourself. People often skip this lesson because being alone makes them feel too depressed. So what do they do? They rush back into their next relationship. But here's what happens; they wind up picking the same type of person as the one they divorced! I call this syndrome: "Same circus, different clown." Live Well Divorce is all about getting out from under the Big Top.
3. Finding good quality people is hard to do, but not if you remember this one thing: interesting people are attracted to interesting people. So be interesting! Live Well Divorce is not about sitting at home waiting for life to come to you. You've got to make it happen.